Coping with a crying baby is right up there with the lack of sleep and in fact they go hand in hand- the more tired you are the harder it can be to cope!
Babies cry. Full stop. That's what they do! It is their main way of communicating. They may cry because they are hungry, tired, need a nappy change, need a cuddle, they are unwell, they are in pain, they are uncomfortable, or....... maybe the moon is just in the wrong quarter! In the early days it is tricky figuring out what the cries might mean, eventually most parents learn to recognise the different ways babies cry.
Its ok to be frustrated with crying- it is really hard when you can't figure out how to make it stop. Sometimes its a matter of just sitting and cuddling baby and being present with them to let them know you are there and continuing to try and soothe them.
The most important thing to remember is that it is NEVER EVER ok to shake your baby or handle them roughly. Babies brains and bodies are fragile and one moment of lost control can leave a life time of damage. If you feel like you are losing control please place your baby in their bed or cot gently- somewhere safe. Then remove yourself for a while- go and make a coffee or walk around the back yard. Take some deep breaths and calm your body and mind. Baby may still be crying but thats ok- they are safe where they are. When you feel ready then go back to your baby and start again with the cuddles and soothing. If you feel like you are really losing it then call a friend or whanau member to come over and give you some time out.
please click here to read the MOH "Coping with a Crying Baby Info"...
From the Mayo Clinic website:
" If your baby seems otherwise OK but the crying continues, do your best to stay calm. Getting tense or upset might only make the crying worse. Remember, crying doesn't hurt anyone — including the baby.
To stay in control of the situation, you might:
Keep it quiet. Hold your baby close to you, and quietly sing or talk to your baby. Repeat a calm word or phrase, such as, "You're OK."
Get moving. Weather permitting, put your baby in the stroller and take a walk. You might even buckle the baby into his or her car seat and take a short drive.
Think rationally. Remind yourself that it's OK to be frustrated by your baby's crying, but getting angry isn't going to help.
Take a timeout. If you're alone, put your baby in a safe place — such as the crib or bassinet. Let your baby cry while you take a few minutes to regroup in another room.
Be realistic. Remind yourself that you're not failing your baby if you can't stop a crying spell.
Ask for help. Let your partner or another loved one take over for a while. Take advantage of baby-sitting offers from trusted friends or neighbours. Use the time to take a nap or simply relax. If you're worried about your ability to cope with a crying baby, contact a family member or friend, your health care provider, a local crisis intervention service or a mental health help line for support."